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Mrs_Sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-04 12:24
Subject: Sad news
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ursula4x is no more. She passed away in January of this year. I had a feeling that was the case when my snail-mail to her was returned as undeliverable, but it took until today to confirm it (I finally managed to connect with one of her co-workers).

I have no more words, only tears. And hugs for those of us who also knew & loved her.

ETA: I have contacted the staff here on dreamwidth and the staff at Livejournal to have her account put into Memorial status. I don't know if dw will comply (as I'm not a family member) but the rules at Livejournal state that friends of the deceased can make the request, so I did.

This entry was originally posted at http://mrs-sweetpeach.dreamwidth.org/357898.html.
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Thistlethorn: lewis/hathaway-rain
User: thistlethorn
Date: 2012-06-04 16:53 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:lewis/hathaway-rain
I'm so sorry for you, dear. There's nothing sadder than losing our loved ones. *hugs*
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-04 23:55 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Thanks. Ursula was an incredible woman and I was blessed to have known her. I just wish she weren't gone. I hope she made it okay to the Rainbow Bridge and her beloved dogs were there to greet her. If anyone deserves that, it was Ursula.
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Thistlethorn
User: thistlethorn
Date: 2012-06-05 01:29 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
*hugs*
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WPAdmirer
User: wpadmirer
Date: 2012-06-04 18:41 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
OH NO. I had worried about her. I SO adored her. Thank you for letting people like me know. I'm so sorry she's gone. She was a lovely person.
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-04 23:57 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
She really was a lovely person. Her coworker said as much when I spoke with her today, she left some really big shoes to fill at the agency and she is much missed there as well.
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-05 00:01 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Me too, and since February in earnest. It took me a while to figure out how to contact the group where she worked (it would have been easier and faster if someone had bothered to respond to the messages I left her in voicemail), but I finally made contact today. And got the news I didn't want to hear.

Damn I'm going to miss her.
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Laura: mylittlewolfen
User: wolfens
Date: 2012-06-04 18:56 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:mylittlewolfen
My heart is so sad right now. I can't believe it. I hadn't let myself believe that she wouldn't win against this. No words.

*hugs*

Edited at 2012-06-04 06:57 pm (UTC)
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-05 00:05 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
*hugs back* Ovarian cancer is an awful illness. As close as I can figure, she lasted only three or four months after her diagnosis. I too was hoping she'd be able to beat it -- she was such a strong and determined woman. Damn, I'm crying again. *more hugs*
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redblack32: ruthless alex by Ursula
User: redblack32
Date: 2012-06-04 20:57 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:ruthless alex by Ursula
She was such a good woman, and made the fandom such a safe place for a newbie like me...she made me this icon, too.
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-05 00:07 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
*wails* Damn. *tries to get a grip*

She was one of my first online friends and I thought the world of her. Still do.
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maddiec24
User: maddiec24
Date: 2012-06-04 21:01 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Oh no. Thanks for finding out. I don't even know what to say.
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-05 00:13 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Me either, other than I miss her like crazy. And that I'm pissed as hell that I was not able to locate a single obituary for her. You know me and my strong google-fu and in all this time (I've been trying to find out how she was doing/what happened since February) I hadn't been able to locate a single mention. She deserved so much more.

I'm also frustrated in that I cannot reach out to her family. The might not care to know about her life in fandom, but they'd probably want to know how much she was loved and is missed.

You take care of yourself, okay? I don't want to lose anyone else I love to that damn disease.
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seagray: rainflower
User: seagray
Date: 2012-06-05 01:58 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:rainflower
Oh no. This is such sad news. I've thought of Ursula often over these last months, wondering how she was managing. I tried emailing her but never got a reply. She was such a special person.

Thank you for letting us know. It is a truly great loss for all of us.
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-05 04:31 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
It sure is. I just hope she knew how much she was loved. And that her doggies were there to greet her at the Rainbow Bridge.
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Why all the pearls?Why all the hair?Why anything?: Rhymetastic
User: rhymephile
Date: 2012-06-05 03:52 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:Rhymetastic
I too will use the icon she made for me.

When another of my friends passed away, I wrote to LiveJournal to ask to make her journal a memorial. If you write them and offer your evidence, they will certainly do the same. I don't want any of her fic -- and by extension, her life online -- to disappear. If you can't even find an obit...that makes me sad. Her journal would definitely be purged as it seems no one else cares.

Did you happen to know what tribe she was a member of? I'd love to find an animal center near her reservation or something near her hometown and make a donation in her name. If you can message me the info I'd be very appreciative.

I actually commented on her journal on the first day of Spring, wondering how she was.

I'm going to miss her terribly.
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-05 04:40 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
There's no harm in putting it out publicly, at least not that I can see. Ursula was of Turtle Mountain Chippewa descent. Considering how much she loved her dogs, I'd say that a donation to a dog rescue anywhere on the planet would make her happy.

I hope she's off partying with her dogs and with her fellow slashers. Heaven knows we're a poorer bunch without her.
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Why all the pearls?Why all the hair?Why anything?: Bosco the Man 1996-2011
User: rhymephile
Date: 2012-06-05 05:13 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:Bosco the Man 1996-2011
Look at what I found from 1992 online. The ages match up:

http://community.seattletimes.nwsource.com/archive/?date=19920301&slug=1478602

Maybe her sister passed? Perhaps that's why there's no obit.

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Laura
User: wolfens
Date: 2012-06-05 13:59 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Thank you for finding this and thank you for stepping up and making sure her journal will be a memorial.
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-07 22:00 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
I just don't know. I do think that's our Ursula in the article, but I had zero luck finding a way to contact her sister. It makes me wonder if she passed first and that's why Ursula planned to stay with her cousin. Although with tons of foster kids, maybe she thought her cousin's would be more peaceful? I just don't know.

Another thing that bugs me is the picture of Urs with two or three of her dogs, the one she used sometimes as her icon. I assume it was an actual portrait that she had taken and had scaled down. I'd love to see the original and wonder what became of it. So many unanswered questions. *sigh*
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Polly: Spring Flowers by Betagoddess
User: polly_b
Date: 2012-06-05 14:22 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Keyword:Spring Flowers by Betagoddess
Such awful, awful news, and what I was afraid of hearing. *hugs us all* We will miss her so much.
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-07 21:56 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Yeah, me too. Every day I'd hope I'd see a new post from her in my inbox. I'm so sad that we never did. I just hope she's playing with her dogs in the afterlife.
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User: wadjet_theperv
Date: 2012-06-05 16:51 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
I'm so sorry for your loss honey. I didn't know ursula4x but I do know the feeling. Sending love and hugs to you and maddiec24 xx
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-07 21:55 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Thank you!
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She Who Must Be Obeyed
User: lyricalsoul
Date: 2012-06-05 18:35 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Oh, wow... what a dynamic lady. One of my first fandom friends, and always so helpful and encouraging. I'm so sorry she's gone.

*hugs* to you. You are an awesome friend, and I'm glad she had such an awesome person in her life.
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-07 21:55 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Thank you. *Hugs*

We were lucky to be her friends, were we not?

*more hugs*
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Morgan Dawn
User: morgandawn
Date: 2012-06-06 03:22 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
denyce pointed me this way. I didn't know ursula but I made a Fanlore memorial page. It is open to anyone who wants to add their thoughts. It would hep also to have a brief overview of the communities she contributed and descriptions of her fannish creativity.
http://fanlore.org/wiki/Ursula4x
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-07 21:54 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Thank you for doing so. If anyone deserves being remembered, it is she.
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psyfic
User: psyfic
Date: 2012-06-06 08:43 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
My condolences. *hug*
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Mrs_Sweetpeach
User: mrs_sweetpeach
Date: 2012-06-07 21:54 (UTC)
Subject: (no subject)
Thank you. *hugs back*
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